Everything was so perfect in my life until the moment my husband started acting strange. There was a time when I used to feel proud of my marriage life, but now I am feeling hopeless. He doesn’t respond to me as he did in the past. I don’t know if my husband is in still love with me anymore.
You must have noticed that love is capable of both ruining & exciting your life. It depends on what has been written in your destiny. Although can you presume what you will face in the future?
Well, no one can. It is something that only God knows. If you could have known this, why would you get married to such a man?
In general, marriages are as sensitive as a thread is. It will break down in minutes before you even realize that something is wrong in your married life. That’s why the elder suggests that ‘Marriage is not just a contract, it is a bond of two different bodies and souls’. The more compatible the bond is, the more prosperous the marriage.
In married life, everything gets mixed-up as you have to ensure that your habits and needs are consistent with your partner’s. It is the first, foremost rule of making a matrimonial life successful. If you won’t compromise on your needs and give priority to yourself, you may end up with a loveless marriage.
What Is A Loveless Marriage?
A loveless marriage is something that scares every girl in a relationship. It refers to a matrimonial bond where your husband is not in love with you.
Why Loveless Marriage Is A Big Deal?
It may not be a big deal if you are in a one-sided love relationship; but if you are married to a man who doesn’t love you back, it becomes a lot messy. A loveless marriage is a big deal for wives because they have to forget about their past lives when they get married.
It is more likely a new life for them, they are responsible for adapting their needs and wants as per their husbands’ desires, which is wrong because every woman has their own life to live. They are mature enough to make their own decision as they like.
However, considering the realistic approach, every woman doe act in-line with their husband’s demands.
Is It a Good Thing To Stay In A Loveless Marriage?
Well, I know that it is not possible to know your future. I mean how you would know that your husband will become abusive, a drug addict, or an alien. For the first 3 years of marriage, you won’t even grasp our husband’s habits properly, so, let alone what he will do in the coming future.
Thus, it is established that you married with uncertainty as you didn’t know about your man appropriately.
Does it mean that you have to stay in that loveless marriage forever? No, getting into a rocky marriage was not your choice, but getting out of it is yours. However, if you are not pushing this marriage away for whatever reason, it would be a big mistake in your life.
Do you want your children to act the same with their partners as your husband does with you?
If you have children, then it becomes necessary to get away from this toxic marriage as it will affect them’ behavior and mindset. Because they adopt behaviors of their closest environment, and I am sure you wouldn’t want them to behave in the same way in future.
What Makes You Stay In A Loveless Marriage?
To be honest, there are few things that a woman thinks have bounded her to stay in a loveless marriage. I have written them below to make sure that you read each of them carefully to know that staying in a loveless marriage is not a rule and you can bend it.
Yes, kids are adorable, but sometimes they become the reason for many couples to stay in a marriage with each other. I know you do it for your children’s well-being, but trust me; there is nothing good for them if you stay in this marriage. Think of it in this way, why a husband who isn’t in love with you anymore would care about these kids? He is probably focused on other things or someone else.
You stay in such a marriage because you don’t want to disown the name as it has reputation and money. But is it a good thing? No, it can lead to infidelity, which is morally wrong. Further, loving someone for the sake of money is worst. He may earn dollars, it doesn’t mean you should stay in toxic relationships.
Sometimes, you want to leave your husband, but find it hard to do so because of society. You start thinking about the people. But you should never take a step back just for this reason. It is not the society that has to bear the burden of a loveless marriage.
So, now you know that getting out of a loveless marriage is not a sign of a healthy relationship. But before taking this step, you have to make sure that you are in a loveless marriage. Sometimes we assume things and take actions that we regret, but marriage is not like a flower in the garden as you can find many flowers if you don’t like the one in your hand.
It leads us to our next big question ‘how do you know if your husband loves or he is attracted to another woman?’
Well, men are not very expressive in words, so, they will not confess it to you by themselves. Thus, what’s the way forward? There is a way to know if your husband still loves you or not, let’s hear it from a professional marriage counselor and relationship coach, John Gottman:
"Science has not developed that much yet to innovate something that can dive inside the heart of a man to know what he wants. However, if you ever decide to know if he loves you or not, body language and other behavioural signs can help a lot. Keep them in check, and ensure that you are not living in a loveless marriage."
Are you wondering what these signs are? Then read ahead; I have written the warning signs that can tell If your husband is still in love with you or not. Some of these signs can also help you know if he is attracted to another woman.
Top Signs Your Husband Doesn’t Love You Anymore
1# He Hides His Phone From You
Does your husband hide his phone? If yes, then it is one of the signs that he is hiding something big from you.
Why is it a big deal? I mean, doesn’t hiding a phone mean that he has some confidential information from his work? It could be the situation, right?
No, a husband shares everything with his partner, no matter how confidential it is. It is a rule of getting married – you have to share everything with each other to avoid trust issues. Even presidents of the world are no exception, you can ask them.
Thus, when a husband is hiding his phone from you, it may mean that he has met some other woman and sending a text to her frequently. He doesn’t want you to see those messages because they indicate that your man is attracted to her.
It may also mean that nothing is going on between your husband and another woman. He is hiding to avoid your reaction.
2# He Tells Lies
Do you remember the last time your husband lied about his whereabouts?
It is also one of the signs that your husband doesn’t love you anymore. Since it is already established that marriage requires sharing and truth. But, if your husband is saying that he is in office, however, he is not present there in real; it means that he is doing something meaningful other than work intended to be kept hidden from you.
It can mean that he is secretly meeting other women and lying on your face to avoid offending you. If it is the situation, then be assured as your husband isn’t in love with you anymore and is attracted to other women.
4# Physical Intimacy Is Lost
When was the last time your husband got intimate with you in bed?
It is crucial that suggests if he is in love with you or not. A man never gets tired of sex – it’s a fact – like a horse. The marriage is like a blessing for them, it gives a man the thing that he often pays to get. However, he doesn’t even like spending time with you let alone getting intimated.
Thus, when your husband isn’t interested in having sex with you, it means that he is not in love with you anymore. Either because the existing sex life doesn’t excite him anymore due to lack of love, or he has got some attracted to some other woman.
5# He Is Not Curious About Your Life
Does he still ask questions related to your life?
If not, it means that he is has fallen out of love with you. Are you wondering how? Well, read ahead to know.
When a husband is in love with his partner, he will die to know more about her. Whether it’s about your stupid friend or your fight with someone, he will ask you every detail of it. It may be the case that you get tired of telling him your stories, but he will never.
When your husband is not asking you questions about your personal life, it is a clear sign that he is falling out of love. You may also try to talk to him more often to get his response, but you will fail to get it every single time. It’s not because he is tired of his work and wants to rest, but because he isn’t interested in you anymore.
5# He Stops Complimenting You
Do you remember the last time your husband complimented you?
You may feel like it’s nothing, but trust me; it is a big deal. When a woman gets ready to impress someone, a husband is the first person that comes into her mind.
She wants her husband to notice the change and appreciate it. But when she is in a loveless marriage, it is problematic that the husband sees her.
If you are married with similar circumstances, then it’s clear that he isn’t in love with you anymore. He does not notice that you have bought a new dress or even revamped your look; he just doesn’t care about it.
6# He Is Nice To Everyone Except You
It doesn’t matter if you are a man; you have to show your partner how much you love her always to sustain your wedding.
Generally, we know that men are bad at expressing their feelings with words. So, what they do instead is being generous and friendly to their wives, like taking them out for the shopping or giving them surprise gifts.
Thus, when your husband is not nice to you, but he is behaving well with other people, it means that there is something wrong with him.
He is either upset at you or doesn’t find you worthy enough to be generous with you. Whatever be the case, it means that he doesn’t love you anymore. You should confess it to him and get rid of this toxic wedding.
7# More Visible Faults
There was a time when your man used to hide your faults even though he knew them. But now a day, the table has turned over as he is continuously pointing out your flaws. Now because of lack of love, it seems like, he had a Pandora of your faults and he is opening that box these days.
He will have a problem with anything you do, no matter how much effort you put.
If it’s a similar case with you, and your husband is highlighting your faults; it means that he isn’t in love with you anymore. It’s because he may have gotten tired of the wedding or found someone else better than you.
8# He Scolds You In Public
Does your husband disregard you in a crowded place?
If yes, it is one of the signs your husband isn’t in love with you. A wedding is a pure bond in which you tend to hide the mistakes and the biggest sins of your partner, I know it is a traditional saying, but it is true.
No matter how much time has gone by in your wedding, you are still a human being. You feel the pain and getting scolded in public is so humiliating. No husband has a right to do so.
However, if your man is persistent in scolding you in public, it means that he isn’t in love with you anymore. You should not wait to end this wedding in which you are losing your self-respect.
9# He Is Instigating Hate In Your Kids For You
It’s a really cheap thing to do, but men resort to this option when they stop loving their partners– They start lousy mouthing you in front of your kids.
Why would a husband do it? It’s simple; he wants you to get out of his life but not the children. So, what he does is instigate hate in their mind for you. He will tell lies to make sure that your children think that you are evil and characterless.
It will make it easy for him to get you out of this situation. Trust me; it happens, and I have real examples to relate to this situation.
If you are in this loveless marriage, It is a wake-up call for you to get out of this relationship. It is the only best relationship advice I can give for such circumstances.
10# He Is Flirting With Other Woman
Have you ever caught your husband looking at or flirting with other women?
If yes, it means that he isn’t in love with you anymore. I mean, who looks at other girls when he has a beautiful spouse sitting next to him?
It can also mean that he is attracted to another woman; do you want to know how? Read ahead.
If you find him flirting with the same woman every time, then it is clear that he is interested and wants to get in a relationship with her.
In such situations, you shouldn’t wait to end this wedding, because it will become unbearable for you in the future.
11# He Forgets Important Dates
It is usual to forget essential days once or twice, but if your man fails it every time, it means something wrong. You should start doubting him because it will hurt you less in the future.
It becomes apparent that he isn’t in love with you anymore if he forgets the anniversary date other than a lack of l. It is the most auspicious and the most important day for both of you. It is the day you got married and trusted each other. Thus, forgetting this day is truly a blunder.
You should start looking for other signs, if he forgets this date, to make yourself sure.
12# No Care or Protection For You
No matter what you do in your life or what problem you got stuck in. Your husband doesn’t bat even an eye on you. He doesn’t care that you flirt with another man, and he feels not responsible for protecting you from danger anymore. Further, it seems like he doesn’t take care of whatever you do with yourself.
If your husband shows this sign, he doesn’t love you anymore. A man has an ego, which gets hurt when he sees her wife flirting with other men. He feels like his world has ended, and starts blaming for this behavior.
So, it shows that your husband has lost all the interest in you when he ignores your flirty nature as well.
The Bottom Line:
These were the most vital signs you should keep in mind to know if he is falling out of love. Probably, there could be more signs of your husband doesn’t love you anymore which I may have missed. But, it won’t matter if you focused adequately on the ones listed above.
When you see one of these signs (or in some cases, all of these signs) in your husband, you should think of ending this wedding life. It would be best to keep your sympathetic nature away from this issue as it will lead you to forgive his mistakes. However, sometimes you won’t know if your husband is even interested in continuing the marriage. In that scenario, you would want to avoid making a regretful mistake.
Thus, you want what to when you see one of these signs your husband doesn’t love you, well worry not. I have written an appropriate plan for you to eliminate your worries in the next part of this article. It comprises three essential steps that you should take to counter your husband’s irritating and unfaithful behavior.
Let’s get into what to do when your husband isn’t in love with you.
What To Do When Your Husband Isn’t In Love With You
Look for the sign: Keep an eye on your husband and look for one of the things mentioned above to know if he is falling out of love. If he doesn’t show it, let it got as you were just exaggerating it and it was nothing in real. However, if you do, then follow the second step.
Confront or Catch: You have two options now, either you confront him and ask him to confess, or you can catch him red-handedly. It’s up to you, whatever you choose, but keep yourself ready for an unexpected answer. If you have seen him red-handedly; and he still lies in front of you, then there is no hope for you in this wedding.
You can also consult your best friends to help you in this situation.
Get Rid or Be Patient: Once you have caught your man cheating on you, you can either get rid of him – the most recommended option – or you can keep patience and believe in his talks. If there is still something in his heart for you, he will get his behavior in line.
See, how simple process this process is? So, follow it to walk away or save a toxic wedding. In the end, I hope that your husband is not falling out of love with you, and you prosper in your wedding, stay blessed.
In this article, I have explained what a loveless wedding is, how bad it is for you and your kids, and how to walk away from it. I have also listed signs your husband doesn’t love you anymore. Afterward, if you feel stuck in such a wedding; I have devised ways in parts to get rid of this toxic wedding.
Thus, read, think, and follow to make your life simpler.
Finally, do you know more about husbands falling out of love? Let us know by leaving your valuable comment below. It will help your fellow woman to know if their husbands are falling out of love with them.