When a guy wants to cuddle with you
Did a guy ask you last night to watch Netflix and cuddle together? Now you anxious to know what he wants before it gets too late.
Well, that’s what this article explains – What men want when they ask for a cuddle.
To be honest, cuddling isn’t a bad practice when you do it with the love of your life or your best friends whom you trust. Apart from soothing benefits, cuddling has a lot of health perks. It cheers you up as it releases Oxytocin from the human body. It also eliminates the counts of the hormones that usually are there to increase the stress level.
However, being a girl you know and appreciate this fact about cuddling. But we have always perceived guys as a sex machine which then raises the question that what does cuddling means for them?
It could mean anything ranging from feeling wanted to find a way to achieve an ulterior motive ‘sex’. The sole fact that the meaning differs from a guy to another makes this topic even vaguer.
Therefore, I have asked our men readers the same question to analyze and apprehend their answers to let you know what it means when a guy says that he wants to cuddle with you.
They Want To Cuddle To Protect You – Satisfying Manly Ego
If you think that your guy has no male ego, then make sure that he is not hiding his sexual orientation from you.
However, some males want to satisfy their ego through dominating women which is obviously inappropriate regardless of how much someone tries to justify it. While there are other guys as well who try to satisfy their male ego through the littlest things that women even wouldn’t have imagined.
Cuddling is one of them; keep in mind that according to James Bauer- A relationship psychologist, every guy has a male instinct. They get into a relationship only if they feel that women are dependent on them for protection.
If you look at it through their lens, they don’t want anything more than just a way to express love, be a hero, and satisfy their male ego.
Thus, when a guy asks you for something like a cuddle then it’s most likely he is sincere to you and wants to be a hero.
What Should You Do?
It’s nothing like rocket science, ask yourself just a simple question – Do you really love him? If you do then you will be content to know that he cares about you and wants to protect you.
So, instead of thinking over and over about why your guy wants to cuddle, appreciate the fact that he wants to protect his girlfriend, accept the offer, and let the cuddle do the rest.
He Wants To Cuddle For Comfort
“An unusual feeling that you get when you cuddle is what I like, it’s like you have an in-depth soul and human connection with the person whether it’s a friend or girlfriend” – said the teen guy who likes to cuddle a lot.
No matter how much you deny it but it’s true that it’s not sex that every guy looks for when wants to cuddle. But it ultimately reaches that point and that’s a thing to worry about sometimes else. Thus, intentions matter when it comes to knowing why a guy wants to cuddle you.
Therefore, cuddling can signal you these two feelings depending on the level of your relationship with him:
- Cute & Romantic: When a man wants to cuddle his girlfriend it can show that he intends to take it to the next level. He may start by telling you that he feels comforted and he does but it will always lead to sex.
- Friendly cuddle: When your BFF says that he would like to cuddle then it means either he has a thing for you or either he knows that you are sad and wants to comfort you so that you can relax.
Whatever be the intentions of a man, cuddling always provides comfort and warmth as he puts his arm under your head, strokes your hair, and gets even cozier when you look into the eyes of each other.
But should you let your BFF cuddle or spoon you if he wants?
Who knows if men like cuddling and want to comfort you or desire to be intimate with you. But if you feel the spark in your heart for him and you have always wanted to hook him up then it can be the right time for you to say yes to him. If not, and you still fancy him, but you don’t want it to be more than just a cuddle. So, you know where to stop.
He Is Not A Great Communicator – Wants To Cuddle To Express Love
Is your man shy and never expresses his feelings in words?
If he is, then you know why he wants to cuddle you.
People and especially women should understand that not every man is a great communicator especially when it comes to feelings of love. However, they always try to find the most suitable and romantic way to say what’s hidden in their heart.
That’s when they will reveal that they like cuddling, it may seem a bit odd to you but it will not be about sex if they love you. So, if you share the same views then go for it.
“But my BFF said that he wants to cuddle me” – asked our female reader.
If you are in the situation as mentioned above then there can be two things either it’s a sign that he loves you or he is tired of the girls that he meets at parties and wants to get into your pants.
There is only one way to know it is with him but with your own rules. However, if you are already committed to someone else then you should avoid your BFF as it may affect your healthy relationship.
After your cuddle session, call him the next day when he is busy playing ps5 games or partying. If he replies to you back with the same motivation and confidence then it’s a sign that he loves you. If he doesn’t, block him because it’s for your best.
Men Want To Cuddle When They Feel Safe With Their Partner
Does your man often tell you that he likes to stay in your arms?
Then, believe it or not, he feels safe with you.
Yes, every girl likes cuddling and it releases Oxytocin that makes someone happy. However, more importantly, it makes you feel safe.
When men spoon their girlfriend, they make sure that both of them feel as secure and comfortable with each other.
Man has to face many hardships in his life which are enough to ruin them mentally. The usual stereotyping that ‘a man can’t cry’ and ‘can’t share his feelings’ has further pushed them to the wall. At that point, it becomes important for a woman who’s his life partner to understand what his man is going through.
If it’s the same case with you then you should provide a comforting shoulder to your man rather than judging him. Try to make him comfortable enough around you that he never restrain himself again to open-up more in front of you. Because not everything is about sex.
Thus, it’s up to you to play your part in being a good girlfriend. That’s what relationships are about caring for your partner and catering to all of his wishes.
He Likes Cuddling Because He Wants More Than Just Love
Lastly, the final and one of the worst things a man can want.
He wants to cuddle you because he finds you attractive and wants more than just love.
Ever felt that someone is behaving unusually and giving you signs that he wants to be in bed with you?
Well, trust me it’s not something that you face. Every woman out there encounters such situations and sometimes these signs come from the person that they expect the least.
However, there is something miraculous about women. They have a sixth sense that signals them when they get these signs from a man.
But sometimes may find themselves lost in emotions when their best friends ask for cuddles.
So, when you meet someone who wants cuddling from you, don’t just give in to it whether you are close or not.
Because no one knows if he turns out to be a type of a casanova who likes cuddling and party with girls just to have sex. He is not concerned with other things when he is around a woman. He will even try to touch you at the parts that you may not feel comfortable with. The more you avoid his mistakes the more it will encourage him to touch you.
Unfortunately, there is no barometer to know and measure the nature of men. Further, they may act like that they love you sometimes but in reality, this act has no truth. So, all you can do at this point is make sure that you avoid him no matter how much you like cuddling.
Final Thoughts:
There will be many times when you will see yourself stuck with such problems in your life and you will make impulse decisions.
However, remember true love cannot be just expressed by physical touch but also by eyes. Whenever you feel that someone is hitting on you and wants to be in bed with you, look at his eyes to know his true intentions. But never give up on relationships just because some people make you feel gross. There are more men out there as well, who care for women and want to share their good time with them
So, Wait for the right one and cuddle him as much as you would want to.