What happens when a guy suddenly stops texting you back? Well, you may find it usual for a day or two but soon you will start thinking again and again until you get disturbed. However, your heart will be shattered if you had interesting late-night conversations before the day he ghosted you.
In other words, you will get obsessed with him.
The more you think about him not texting you back the more you will accuse yourself. You might reach a stage where you find yourself alone while struggling with these helpless thoughts:
Did I do something wrong?
Am I not pretty enough?
Such thoughts will never help and instead, they will only ruin your life. Further, I know that you are loaded with a lot of questions and you want to know why he isn’t texting you. But is it reasonable to pre-assume everything?
Since it’s just been 2 or 3 days and it is too early to judge. What if the problem is not in you but he is a playboy who can’t stick to a girl for a long time? What if he is a focused person and doesn’t want anything to distract himself from achieving his dreams?
Any of this could be true right? That’s why pre-assuming something is the first worst thing that you can do in such situations. However, bombarding him with dozens of text messages isn’t a solution either.
Alternatively, what you can do is keep calm for at least a weak and hope that he texts you back. If he doesn’t read out below to know what it means. If you find something that resembles your situation, then you can also read my guide in the later section that will provide you with the ways to deal with such problems.
Let’s begin our hunt for the reasons for him to not text you back for a week and what does it mean for you.
He Doesn’t Text You Maybe Because He Is Not a Conversation Starter:
It’s strange but not every other guy out there knows how to start a conversation. Further, most of the guys are reluctant to make a first move of texting a woman as they feel that they are going to offend her somehow.
Similarly, maybe the guy you like is facing the same situation. It means that he may be interested in you and wants you to start the conversation. But you may fail to understand what he wants and keep ignoring him in the hope that he will text you back.
However, after a whole week of waiting, you will ask yourself that you have played every trick that your dating coach told you then why isn’t he still texting you back?
Well, girl you seriously need to change the coach who gives you such beginner relationship advice. This trick only works on the person who has an alter ego and wants you to chase him.
So, if you seriously want that guy do not confuse fear with the ego. Although how would you know if it is the reason for him not texting you back? Well, you can try the formula below to make your life a little simple.
Give him the benefit of doubt by texting him to inquire about his health. If you get a response then you know what was stopping him to text you back. But if you don’t get a reply then it’s clear that he is not into you.
He Doesn’t Text You Back Because He Is Not A Phone Addict
The social web has transformed the way people used to interact. This transformation itself has no impact on humans but its misuse has engendered many problems. Mainly, we have forgotten the essence of time management and traditional ways of living life.
While we may have made constant web surfing our top-most priority but in the real-world people exist who like to stay away from their phones. Maybe that’s what it means if you haven’t received a single text from your guy.
While it’s bizarre for us to think that in such a digitalized world your guy is interested more in reading and adventurous trips instead of texting, but it can be true.
Does it mean that he likes someone else? No!
You may feel like that he is losing interest in you, but it’s not the case, and if he isn’t a phone addict then you should provide him some space. I know it’s not an easy thing to do for you as you are stranded with negative thoughts. Further, I also understand that you want him to explain reason for his absence.
But in anxiety, you may bombard him with messages that can upset him., if he is genuinely busy and it will diminish every little chance that you have to be in a relationship with him.
Instead, you can leave a polite text or give a phone call on the weekend. If he answers back then ask everything that’s on your mind while staying calm. However, in the situation when you don’t hear from him after a week, you should probably let it go.
Either way, if you feel like that you are into him to an extent that you are dying to get into a relationship with him. Then as an expert dating coach, I would suggest waiting for him to come back to you if you can.
Meanwhile, you should keep texting him with the gap of 2 days because leaving everything to get better by itself isn’t a solution. It will only make your life more complex.
He Can’t Get Back To You Because He Is Busy In Chasing His Dreams
One thing that you must understand that life isn’t easy and dreams don’t come true without hard efforts. These limitations may become a hurdle for guys who have sincere goals to text back.
Further, thanks to stereotyping, a guy is always expected to give their best whether it’s a job or dating life. It makes their life even more difficult.
Why he doesn’t text you back after he is done with the work?
Then, consider it in this way, that you have done exhausting work all day. What’s the first thing that you will do when you come back home tired? Sleep or check your phone?
I think if you are a normal human, then you will probably sleep. See, that’s exactly what I am trying to say. Thus, you have to accept the fact that multitasking isn’t a real thing and he isn’t a superman.
However, you may get a feeling that he isn’t interested in you but it may not be true when someone is seriously busy with his job. Hence, a piece of advice: do not make it a big deal and relax.
So, what you should do in case you don’t get his reply even after a week?
Well, you can surely leave a text on his social media profile, and note if he reads your messages but doesn’t reply back.
I know that it will happen and you will think that he isn’t into you, but stop right there as it might not be the case. What if he read your texts and thought to himself to text you later but forgot to do it because he was tired? It can happen, right?
So, you should probably give him a call on the next day although make sure that you are calling him in his free time. If he even doesn’t receive your calls then everything is clear for you. You don’t have to wait for him anymore.
Just let it go and look for someone that can give you the love that you deserve.
He Doesn’t Text Back Maybe Because He Is Just Playing Games Or Interested In Someone Else
Talking to a great guy who seems flirty yet amazing but then he shuts off on you after 3 days? You must have encountered this situation in your life.
Wondering how did I know that? Well, it’s usual and happens to every woman out there.
A study was conducted to find why guys flirt, and it was revealed that most of the time it’s natural but sometimes they do it to get into an affiliation. You can read this study for more insight by clicking here.
Therefore, we know that boys have a tendency to flirt with other girls even if they are committed to someone else. So, the reason that he isn’t texting you back maybe he isn’t into you or he was playing games on you.
If it’s true, then it’s time for you to take it as a sign of danger and move over him.
Further, you may think that ‘Damn, he looked so innocent, how could he do that’. But trust me; I have been a dating coach for enough time to know what boys can do to women to get what they want and this is one of their tricks to make girls chase them.
What they do is get close to a women and then leave them without even giving any notice. It makes her think about him all the time. Is it hard to believe? Look at yourself; think about what’s in your mind, when you are reading this guide.
However, I am not saying every boy out there is a freak who likes to play with the emotions of girls just to get one-night sex. I am just saying that he isn’t the one that you need in your life.
There is another problem that the study mentioned earlier highlights: Sometimes the receivers may misunderstand the intentions of the senders. In simple words, it means that maybe he wasn’t flirting to just get you laid.
Whatever may be the case, it’s hard to know why a guy does something. It gets even worse when you haven’t even met him in real life. So, what can you probably do about it to clear your doubts?
Follow A Simple Rule To Make Your Life Easy: ‘Do Not Desperately Look For Love In A Place Where You Will Find Only Dust’
The first thing that you can try is looking at his social network posts, you will surely know if he is not interested in you or a playboy. Next, you can also get in touch with some mutual friends to get information about him. A piece of advice here for you is to not trust anything that they say until you see it by yourself.
In case, you still not get anything that reveals his nature, then there is only one thing that you can try. Call him as soon as possible. Because the soon you clear your doubts, the soon you can get him out of your head.
If he picks up and provides you the reason for his crude behavior and you find them reasonable, then you can think about forgetting him. But, if you feel that his reasons are contradicting with the information that you got from other sources, then just drop the call right away and say sayonara to that guy.
If he doesn’t respond to your messages and neither picks up your calls. Then there is no need to text him over and over again. Because it’s been a week and that guy would have come back himself already if he had any interest in you.
Therefore, wait no more than 2 days and after that delete him from your heart, thoughts, social networks, and everywhere else.
We know what it probably means if you don’t get a message from a person you like. I know that you are heart-broken and the fact that hurts you the most is that he wasn’t like this when you both went on the first date. He was sweet, caring, and whatnot? You even started thinking of your future with that guy.
But this sudden u-turn has left you in the room full of doubts. You are struggling to know the reasons for him not replying to your messages. Further, it’s just a week; just imagine what will happen to you as few more days pass away.
So, can you let a guy break you to this extent? I guess no, however, it doesn’t mean that you don’t have a right to get sad. In contrast, I am saying that the way you feel is justified but it’s not the right thing to do. You have a future ahead and leaving everything just because this will not do any good to you either.
Moreover, you are a grown-up lady you know what’s good or what’s bad for you. So, think wisely, and if you feel at any point that I was right. Then, move forward reading this article, I have written a game plan for you that you can follow and practically apply the strategies to get him out of the picture.
I remember giving these tips to another client of mine. Trust me, within days she not just got over him but also find a new passion that inspired her to do better instead of just worrying about a guy.
So, read the step-by-step plan mentioned below to know how can you move on.
How To Move On And Get Back To Your Normal Life
It sounds easy than to do, I know. However, you can’t skip or ignore it. Being in a relationship is something that every woman wants but not each one of them gets it successfully. Further, it’s better for you to avoid getting into relationships and if a guy doesn’t text you back because he isn’t interested then there is no need to pursue such a relationship. Because you cannot force a person to love you back and even if you do it, there is no chance for him to stay loyal to you.
Thus, what you need is expert advice from a dating coach on how to move on over a guy. Further, you don’t have to look for it here and there as I will discuss with you the best strategy that many people have used to overcome this problem.
To apply these strategies effectively, at first you are required to do an analysis of your current situation like where you are standing right now and what you are going through.
After you do that, you will find yourself in the situation below.
The guy didn’t text you back even though you tried everything to reach him back. Now you don’t know what’s going in his mind. There is a possibility that he is really busy and interested in you, however, it can be true as well that he was just playing games on you and you will only know when you get a text from him. Now, you may face one of these two situations:
- You are heartbroken and sad because of his sudden behavior.
- You are just worried and want him to explain that why he did it.
Either way, you want to talk to him to know that was it something that you did to offend him.
As you are done with analyzing the situation, you can go through and apply these steps to ensure that this dilemma is solved and you can continue doing the work that you left because of that guy. Further, there is a lesson at every stage, so, learn it to make sure that you don’t make the same mistakes in the future ever again.
The First Step – Confront The Guy if You Don’t Recieve Any Text From Him:
Always Reach Him To Know His Side Of The Story Before Judging Everything Yourself
The first lesson that comes along with this step is that you should never judge before knowing the truth.
As you never know what he is going through, judging earlier will have a negative impact on all the chances that were available for you to have a relationship with the guy.
That’s why you have to know that what’s exactly going on with the guy, and there is no other better way to do it than contacting him. Through this, you will know his side of the story without any externalities.
Every dating coach will give you this advice but no one will tell you how exactly to do it. So, what’s the proper way to do it?
First, send him a text, in the beginning, it should include nothing more than a simple hello. If he doesn’t reply to you back for two days, then it’s time to send another text in which you will ask about his health. Because, if he was busy enough to not respond to you back, he will reply to the second text yours. Why? Because it’s the nature of a guy, he likes when a person especially a woman thinks about him and asks how he’s doing.
Wait for some time and if he still doesn’t respond to your texts. Then, you will have to call him but at the right time.
Don’t know what’s the right time? The right time is the weekend; if he does a job then he will be free on weekends.
If you don’t receive any positive response from his side after a week, you can check his social networking sites to make sure if he gets online frequently.
What if he does? Well, simply ask for the reasons for his absence. If he provides you a logical reason for texting you back you can continue your relationship. But he may lie to you that he doesn’t use his phone regularly and frame it as a reason for not responding to your text.
However, you have already checked his activities online, so basically you caught him red-handed. Further, the purpose isn’t to make a scene so ask politely and if he was in some serious problems make sure that you support him. If his answers don’t satisfy you or you don’t get any response after a week then you know what to do.
Let it go and stop thinking about him, don’t know how to do that? Read ahead.
Second Step – Set A Deadline For That Person
Time management can be used to resolve any issues and moving on a guy is no exception.
That’s the second lesson that is affiliated with this step. You have always desired to have a schedule and be organized and now it is the perfect time to do so.
This step requires you to set a deadline for yourself to forget that guy especially when you know that he doesn’t care about you.
So, why would you still wait for something that’s never going to happen? Further, you also know that this situation is not beneficial for you.
I know it’s not an easy thing to do, but as the says that practice makes a man perfect, and in your case, it’s a woman.
So how will you create a deadline to follow?
Well, you can start by asserting this to yourself ‘If I don’t receive a text or a phone call from him for 3 days or more, then I will completely remove him from my picture’
This is one of the easiest ways that you can do to get a person out of your mind. Because it’s you who realized that spending time thinking over a guy is not important instead of anyone else giving you a ted talk.
Moreover, you will have more important things to take care of like studies, but this constantly worrying is restricting you to spend your quality time on other things.
As you create a deadline, you will understand that it has more benefits than you had thought. Such as, you get your life more organized than it was before.
Third Step – Know Your Worth
No matter how strong and confident you can be, you have no control over how you feel.
That’s the next lesson and the main factor that’s affecting and you can’t get over a guy who’s not texting you back. But when he doesn’t text for a week, you start panicking which leads you to the feeling of helplessness. Right there, you have to stop before you start blaming yourself for his behavior.
Because that’s what this step requires from you. To make sure that you get over him, first, you will have to know what you worth.
Because if you knew it you wouldn’t have panicked over not receiving a text from him. When a woman gets hurt in such situations. She starts degrading herself.
That’s what you will also go through and you may have bizarre thoughts like:
- I am not worth his relationship
- It was my fault
- I offended him somehow
- I am not meant to be loved
Remember, that these thoughts are as dangerous and harmful for your mind as any virus can be. It will make you feel like you are nothing and that particular guy has the ability to hurt you.
So, before you get into such messy thoughts ever again, start remembering your value. Know that you worth a lot and not receiving text messages from a single guy isn’t a big deal.
Fourth Step – Remove All The Negativity Around You
Avoid negativity in the situations when you feel sad
That’s the third and most important lesson of this strategy.
Do you know what hurts more? Break-up? No! But the way you live after it.
So, when you are hurt try not to scroll Facebook, because you may encounter posts that resemble the exact situation that you are going through right now.
What you need to do is throw away your phone and start doing something productive like reading or learning a new skill. By doing it you will have two benefits. First, you will get over the guy and second, you will learn something that will have a positive impact on your personality.
I would personally suggest reading books especially the ones which are based on motivation; it will help you a lot. But you can also dwell your time into learning a new skill or sharpening the existing skills you have. Because no one is perfect and you always grow as you learn.
Therefore, that’s what you have to do in this step – remove negativity.
Fifth Step – Plan A Trip With Your Girl Gang
Trips always help you to forget your worries.
Do you want to know the short way to move on over a guy? Then, stop worrying as I am here to reveal that secret to you.
That’s the final lesson from this final step. Go on a trip when you feel sad and helpless.
It’s planning a trip especially an adventurous one.
How will it probably help you? Well, mainly if you stay at home, you will kill yourself by thinking over and over again about that guy. Further, partying with your girl gang may not even help you that much. But if you go on an adventurous trip it will be a new experience for you. You will meet new people who will make you realize that a single guy cannot make you sad forever.
So, where should you go for your trip?
Well, the best possible stop that I can think of is hiking in the snowy mountains. It will provide some fresh air to take a breath and release your sorrows. When you will go back, you will have a completely changed outlook over how you should spend your time and dating.
Final Thoughts
So far we have covered that what it means if a guy doesn’t text you back and the strategies to get over him. Thus, we can conclude that dating isn’t really a piece of cake as people suggest. You meet people who may not meet your expectations; you may encounter problems that you have never thought of. Thus, always have room for inaccuracy in your mind. Because not every person out there is as good as you they show.
Further, you should not waste your time just thinking about a guy, there are many things that you could do instead. Try to follow at least one of the 4 steps if you find these hard to do.
In the end, stay focused on professional work and wait because the love that you deserve will come to you at the right time.
